Advice for Hijabi Beginers from Stylish Muslimah

Assalamualaikum & hello readers~!
just wanna share Advice for Hijabi Beginers from Stylish Muslimah blog

After the African millionaires desperately throwing their life savings at me, the most common emails I get are from girls thinking about wearing hijab and wanting some advice. I'm not going to beat about the bush, I am the worst person to ask for advice when it comes to anything, let alone a religious subject. My opinions regarding hijab have definitely changed over the past few years and of course, I am not a scholar so my views are often riddled with bias and influenced by my state of my at any given time. Having said that, as so many people have asked, I decided I should make a post giving anyone thinking of wearing hijab a few pieces of advice, things I kind of wish someone had told me.

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1. Wouldn't advice you to overhaul your wardrobe the minute you start covering your hair. I did that and it didn't go well - take your clothing transition slowly.

2. It is a piece of cloth, not magic: don't expect to suddenly become divinely religious. Please don't act it either, it's so off-putting.

 3. One of the biggest shocks I got when I began to mix with Muslims was realising just how bitchy a lot of hijabis can be. Some are nice, but don't expect to suddenly discover a "sisterhood" that you weren't part of before you wore hijab. You weren't part of it because nobody is. It doesn't exist.

4. Keep reminding yourself that you are wearing it for the pleasure of Allah (SWT) and not for people.

5. Hijab is not about 'modesty', it's about doing what Allah (SWT) commands you to do. You can be modest without covering your hair and you can be immodest in a niqaab.

6. Be prepared for some interesting questions/comments. Some recent ones I've had (from non-Muslim men) include 'are you wearing a wig under that?', 'I bet you don't wear that to the beach.. you don't do you?', 'how long is your hair and have you dyed it?' and 'what would happen if I pulled the end of your.. headpiece?' HEADPIECE.

7. Be confident! It doesn't matter how you dress as long as you are confident and nice, people will like and respect you. And if they don't, it's not your problem.

8. Be cautious of judging the way other Muslim girls dress and act. It has nothing to do with you. Anyway, they might actually be much better than you.

9. Once it's on  you become a walking representation of Islam (like it or not), which is a huge responsibility, especially if you turn into one of those hijabis that find it impossible to smile.

10. I beg you don't start dissing advising hijabis on the Internet about how 'haram' they are and telling them how they should and should not be dressing. People did this with me a lot at the start of my blog when I did not wear the hijab and it almost put me off the idea altogether.

11. Allah (SWT) judges our scales of good deeds in relation to our bad deeds. Hijab will increase your good deeds but it is not the be all and end all of your deen. Just another good thing to do.

 12. You will probably, at some point after wearing the hijab, want to take it off. I would strongly advise you to stick with it simply because if you do there will come a moment when you think 'I'm really glad I didn't take it off'. 'Jihad al nafs' was never supposed to be easy, so don't instantly succumb to your inner desires; they are almost always fleeting.

12. I wouldn't even think about hijab if I didn't pray and fast.

The tips are just my opinions and based on my experiences so they may not apply to you but I hope at least some of it helped :)

An advice for me too. :)

InsyaAllah :)

matta-ne, minna-san~!

p/s: photo: respective owner

TOP wants warm

salam, hello readers~!

TOP: When I was in kindergarten I ran away many times. If I hear from my mother she says that I had a hard time in groups because I am sensitive and sometimes like that… I always run away to my house. My mother told me to stop coming home but still I always ran away to my house. So she talked to my kindergarten teacher and hid my shoes, because without shoes you won’t come out. Then without my shoes I come ran away to my house, and after that the teacher took off my socks. But if the teacher takes off my socks, only I will complain because the others use theirs, so she told the whole class to take off their socks too. Like that, I walked home barefooted. At that time I had a hard time with crowds. I was a student who did not listen very well. Now I am not like that but when I was young… I was not a bad student but it was hard for me to sit with many people during class. Thinking why must I be sitting here like this, if I think now I must’ve been there because I needed to be, but I just went out of class. I went to my house. I went to my house because my mother was there.

Tae Yang: All of us are in dorm but only he lives with his mother. I asked why because it is more comfortable if we are together in dorm to do our schedule. He said it is nice to wake up and eat the meal his mother makes.

TOP: Because I need to stay in a warm place.

 matta-ne, minna-san~!

Dev and daughter

salam, hello readers~!
heard of Dev right? the chick who sang the part in Like A G6

as everyone know yeah, she's have a single out here in Malaysia, 'In The Dark'
and bunch of other singles and also an album  in the States
album: The Night the Sun Came Up

she and her fiance; Jimmy Gorecki now have a baby girl, named Emilia Lovely

the before

the after, cute right! hehe

Dev didn't just left and settle but then again she's rocking more then ever now?
didn't believe me?
see her latest photos

is she cool or what?
hell yeah, she is~!
rocking mama :P

matta-ne, minna-san~!
photos: Dev Facebook

Tun Dr Mahathir: Muslims in Malaysia have to be grateful

2012/06/09

KUALA LUMPUR: Bekas Perdana Menteri, Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad, mengingatkan umat Islam di Malaysia supaya bersyukur dengan nikmat keamanan dan pembangunan yang dikecapi negara sekarang.

Beliau berkata, ada sebahagian umat Islam negara ini yang tidak bersyukur dengan nikmat Allah SWT yang dikurniakan kepada penduduk Malaysia dalam bentuk keamanan, perlindungan daripada bencana alam dan pentadbiran kerajaan yang cekap.

"Keadaan kita sebenarnya, kita kurang bersyukur dan kalau kita pergi ke negara-negara lain, tidak payah jauh, dekat-dekat sini pun tidak apa, kita dapati bahawa keadaan mereka lebih buruk daripada kita," katanya kepada pemberita selepas merasmikan Konvensyen Saudara Muslim Peringkat Kebangsaan di Pusat Islam di sini hari ini.

Sebaliknya, kata Dr Mahathir, umat Islam negara ini juga dihasut supaya jangan bersyukur dan diajar untuk memaki orang.

Beliau menegaskan tidak ada negara lain yang mana umat Islam dan bangsa lain hidup dengan bahagia kecuali di Malaysia sementara dunia menyaksikan keadaan huru-hara dan bencana alam seperti taufan, gempa bumi dan ledakan gunung berapi di tempat lain.

"Jadi janganlah buat angkara. Kalau tengok orang buat demo, demo jatuhkan kerajaan, kita pun hendak buat demo jatuhkan kerajaan, kita ada cara hendak jatuhkan kerajaan iaitu melalui pilihan raya, kalau dapat menang, menanglah, kalau kalah, kalahlah," katanya.

Beliau seterusnya mengingatkan mereka yang tidak bersyukur ini bahawa dalam Al-Quran sudah disebut janji Allah SWT di mana mereka yang menidakkan nikmat Tuhan akan ditimpa azab yang pedih.
Beliau berkata, sekiranya umat Islam bersyukur, nikmat daripada kurniaan Allah akan dilimpahkan lebih banyak ke atas negara.

Beliau juga berpendapat sekiranya ajaran Islam diperjelaskan dan ditunjukkan dengan betul, ia akan dapat menyatukan seluruh penduduk negara tanpa mengira agama mereka.

"Kesukaran untuk berbuat demikian menyebabkan kadang-kadang segelintir penduduk bukan Islam berada dalam keadaan bermusuh dengan agama itu disebabkan pandangan negatif mereka.

"Bukan kita nak paksa orang memeluk agama Islam tetapi pandangan negatif ini menyebabkan kita ini kadang-kadang macam bermusuh, itulah yang menyebabkan kita tidak dapat menyatupadukan rakyat," katanya.

Dr Mahathir turut ditanyakan soalan oleh seorang wartawan dari China yang beragama Islam mengenai pandangannya berhubung umat Islam di republik itu berdasarkan lawatannya ke negara itu sebelum ini.

Dr Mahathir berkata, semasa lawatan ke daerah yang didiami penduduk Islam di negara itu, beliau mendapati mereka sangat patut kepada ajaran agama. - BERNAMA

 09/06/2012KUALA LUMPUR: Former Prime Minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad called on Muslims in Malaysia to be grateful for the blessings of peace and development of the country enjoyed now.
He said some Muslims in our country who are not grateful for the blessings God has bestowed upon the people of Malaysia in the form of security, protection against natural and efficient government administration."The situation we are, we are not grateful, and if we go to other countries, there is no need far, near, near here, was not what we find that their condition is worse than us," he told reporters after opening the Muslim Brother Convention Stage National Islamic Centre here today.Instead, it said, the Muslims of this country also instigated and taught him not to give thanks for cursing people.
He stressed that no other country in which Muslims and other people living with happiness except in Malaysia, while the world witnessed the chaos and natural disasters such as hurricanes, earthquakes and volcanic eruptions elsewhere.
"So do not do self-centered. If you see the people for the demo, demo drop the government, and we want to do a demo drop the government, we have a ways to drop the government through an election, if I can win, prevailed, if lost, defeated," he said.

 He also reminded those who are not grateful that the Qur'an has mentioned the promise of Allah SWT in which those who deny the grace of God will suffer a painful punishment.He said if the Muslims give thanks, blessings of Allah be showered blessings on the country's more.
He also felt that if the teachings of Islam correctly explained and illustrated, it will be able to unite the entire population regardless of their religion.
"The difficulty in doing so sometimes causes some non-Muslim population in a state that is hostile to religion because of their negative views.
"We did not want to force people to embrace Islam but this negative view of our cause this kind of hostile sometimes, that's the cause we can not unite the people," he said.
Dr Mahathir was also asked questions by a reporter from China who is a Muslim about his views on Muslims in the republic based on a visit to the country before.
Dr Mahathir said during a visit to the area occupied by the Muslims in this country, he found that they are fit to religious teachings. - BERNAMA

matta-ne minna-san~!
* all of this are from Google Translate, so the language are all over the place :P
** from :  http://www.bharian.com.my/bharian/articles/UmatIslamdiMalaysiaperlubersyukur_DrMahathir/Article

Confirm BIg Bang Alive Tour in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia

salam, hello readers~!
i'm torn between two...

should i GO TO BIG BANG ALIVE TOUR IN Malaysia or just STAY IN IPG FOR the EXAM?
if i'm going to the Concert, of course i will be a VERY good student this semester
other than that, I thank God cause i'm not the KK for next sem ;P

its going to be on the 27th October 2012 at Stadium Merdeka
the cheapest ticket maybe will be around RM200 ++
my aim is that, not much of my budget to go for rock zone nevertheless the VIPs seat....
yes, it has been confirm
see HERE
i heard Rock Zone will be arounf RM 600++ and VIPs will be around rm1000...
but these are not conform, so, we just wait for the tickets to open ya!

and i go do some Google Image of the Stadium Merdeka :-

 now, i know what's near to Stadium MErdeka, so, its a possibility of going there though

if according to this Avril's 2008 seating plan, i'm going to be around the Rm100++ and below free seating... x mampu~ heh heh tapi semangat nak g gak!


but seriously, i wanna go man!
but still, if there is SuaraKami 2012, i'm gonna consider it, if the artists are worth it hehe


and Big Bang came out with a new single: Monster
everyone was so freaking awesome!, this time, i mean, everyone is a 'freak' freaking awesome!

So, check out the Video!

 matta-ne, minna-san~!
p/s: so, should i or shouldn't i?